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Mother Seeks to Vacate Child Support Order Based on Alienation of the Children


A New York Family Lawyer said in this Child support case, the Court posed the question to counsel, as to whether a hearing on alienation was necessary, in view of a prior hearing held by this Court. The Court set a briefing schedule for the parties. The Mother has timely filed her memorandum of law as the proponent that the question of alienation must be heard by this Court, at a hearing. The Father has submitted no opposition whatsoever. The genesis of the Mother’s instant application is that after this Court’s decision previously rendered, she must continue to make payment of the existing order of support; and she wishes to vacate that order upon the basis of alleged alienation of the children.

A New York Child Custody Lawyer said that it is not clear as to whether the Mother alleges that alienation is a result of the Father’s actions, or is a result of the actions of the child/children themselves. Paragraph 8 of the Mother’s memorandum of law states that in this Court’s decision upon the prior matter, the Court only evaluated whether visitation would be contrary to the children’s best interests and thus detrimental to their welfare in determining what is in the children’s best interests, the Court did not undergo an analysis of the cause of why visitation is detrimental to the children. The Court never addressed whether the children have alienated themselves from the mother.

A Nassau County Family Lawyer said the Mother continues in Paragraph 9 of her memorandum, that the issue of alienation is still ripe for litigation, the court has not yet addressed the issue of fault and alienation in determining whether or not the children should have visitation with the Mother. The court only concluded that such visitation would be contrary to the children’s best interests, but did not determine whether the negative effect was caused by alienation.

A Nassau County Child Custody Lawyer said the Mother cites two cases for the proposition that “where a child voluntarily abandons a non-custodial parent by refusing all contact and visitation, without cause, the parent’s child support obligation may be terminated.” The case cited does in fact stand for the proposition asserted by the Mother, but it did not find alienation in the circumstances, and denied the parent’s application to vacate the child support order. In the second case cited, a matter was brought by the father alleging that the mother had alienated the child’s affections from the father. A hearing on visitation was commenced and the court found no alienation. In fact, just as in the matter at bar, the father sought suspension or termination of child support due to the alleged alienation. The trial court held that the father “blamed the mother, the court system and the various therapists who have attempted to help his son, the Petitioner has failed to take responsibility for his own role in alienating his child.” The Court went on to state that “the Petitioner has failed to show that the Respondent willfully and deliberately alienated the child from the Petitioner.”

A Nassau County Family Lawyer said the Court continued “the court’s determination to suspend the non-custodial parent’s visitation does not automatically relieve the non-custodial parent of his child support obligations. Only where a custodial parent is directly responsible for the interruption of the non-custodial parent’s visitation will child support be suspended or terminated,”

A Nassau County Child Custody Lawyer said the Court continued “suspension of child support payments is warranted when the custodial parent’s interference with visitation is to the level of deliberate frustration’ or active interference’ with a non-custodial parent’s rights. If the conduct does not rise to the level of deliberate frustration or active interference, the court will not suspend child support payments.”

The Court continued: “instances of deliberate and active interference must be extreme to warrant suspension of child support.

Court found that the custodial parent’s conduct did not frustrate or interfere with the relationship. In fact, the Respondent there complied with all court ordered visitation in addition to placing the child in therapy,” just as the Father did in the matter at bar. It was concluded that “the subject child cannot be forced to accept a relationship with his father. Further, the child’s emotional resistance does not affect his right to receive child support from the Petitioner.”

Previously, the Court heard, at great length, four consolidated matters between these two parties. One of those matters was a petition brought by the Mother, in which she requested a modification of the Court’s order of visitation, claiming that the Father was alienating the children from her.

All four matters were the subject of extensive hearings before this Court, commencing in September 2004 and concluding on October 26, 2004. At the conclusion of testimony, counsel requested the right to file post-trial memoranda, and thereafter this Court issued its decision.

Despite the Mother’s assertion in her brief that the question of alienation was not addressed at the prior hearing, the fact is that it was addressed in this Court’s decision.

The Father’s testimony was that he brought his own petition because the children have been upset during visitation at both places and that sometimes the children refused to visit. “The Father states he encouraged’ the children to go to visitation. At this point, the Father wants all visitation to end”

The testimony of the Mother’s witness of Visitation Alternatives, was that “the visits at her facility were from September 27, 2002 until January 29, 2003 and were generally weekly. The children were very resistant to visiting with the Mother” The witness further stated “that the Mother came to her visit on November 27, 2002 inappropriately.’ It was the opinion of the case supervisor that the Mother had been drinking.

In addition, Visitation Alternatives had cancelled that visit a few hours earlier, but the Mother appeared nevertheless. The Mother were spoken to by personnel at Visitation Alternatives to be sure that the Mother had not been drinking and to be sure she would get counseling for alcoholism. This was the first and only time that Visitation Alternatives saw the Mother in this condition, although they were aware of her history of alcohol abuse”

“The Father has never purposefully been late for visitation but sometimes he meets rush hour traffic on his way home from work, which is something over which he has no control”

The Father’s witnesses, consisting of a clinical social worker at the high school, a third grade teacher at the elementary school and a fourth grade teacher at the elementary school, testified that prior to each visitation and immediately subsequent to each visitation, each of the children had exhibited physical manifestations, and that “the Mother’s alcoholism upset greatly and he was frightened by a telephone call in 1999 from the Mother”. During the Mother’s testimony, she admitted “that she has a criminal conviction in Domestic Violence Court for making a phone call’ on March 21, 2002”. She continued that “on March 21, 2001 she was convicted in Domestic Violence Court and sentenced on August 22, 2001 to probation for three years.

“She stated that her lack of relationship with the children is not due whatsoever to her, and that it is all due solely to the Father’s actions or words'”.

However, later in her testimony “the Mother further testified that she does accept some of the responsibility for the lack of relationship with the children” “At this point in the Mother’s testimony a tape was authenticated by the Father. The message was from June 2, 2001 and the Father stated that he was one hundred per cent sure’ it was the Mother’s voice. During that telephone call to the Father’s home, the person calling stated she was a social worker. The Mother denies that she made that call”.

The Court then questioned the children in camera at a case hearing. The Court took extensive notes as to the children’s testimony, but will not reveal it in this decision.

“The Law Guardian in her post-trial memorandum urges that this Court not allow any visitation whatsoever to the Mother. The Law Guardian further stresses that once visitation ceased, virtually all of the physical and psychological manifestations exhibited by the children also ceased”.

The Court then, in its decision of April 18, 2005, reviewed the testimony and evidence under the heading “DISCUSSION AND ANALYSIS” “As set forth at the beginning of this decision and order, Action #3 is a petition brought by the Mother, requesting a modification of this Court’s order of supervised visitation, claiming that the Father is alienating the children from her”.

With respect to the Mother’s petition alleging alienation and upon review of all of the testimony and evidence before the Court at trial, the Court found that the Mother had not proven her case, and due to this failure of proof, Action # 3 is dismissed”

“Placed into evidence as Petitioner’s exhibit III was a certain tape recording, which the Father alleges was a telephone call to the children’s home, in which the Mother represented herself to be a social worker. The Mother denies this call. The Court finds that the telephone call was in fact made by the Mother, in violation of court order, and that the Mother misrepresented herself, both to the children and to this Court, for her own selfish ends”.

“The Court further takes notice of the fact that the Mother was found guilty in criminal court to making a telephone call to the Father’s home, in violation of an order of protection against her and in favor of the Father”

“Lastly, the Court notes the order of the judge which, after a hearing, granted a three year order of protection against the Mother and in favor of the Father, which included a finding of aggravating circumstances”.

“The Court finds that, contrary to the Mother’s assertions, the Father has not alienated the children; rather, it is the Mother herself, by her actions over the years, including one appearance at Visitation Alternatives when she was under the influence of alcohol, who has done so. Her guilty plea in criminal court, her telephone call to the home misrepresenting herself as a social worker, and the finding by the Judge which resulted in a three year order of protection against her, all show to this Court that it is the Mother herself who has been responsible for the alienation”.

“The Court is satisfied that the children’s testimony to this Court was voluntary and there was no undue pressure from either parent regarding their testimony. The children each testified truthfully and forthrightly, in this Court’s opinion” “The Court notes Court exhibit I, in which the parties agreed to therapeutic visitation at Visitation Alternatives, per order. Clearly, the Father had no desire to suspend all visitation with the Mother”

“In the matter at bar, the Mother has failed to prove that her therapy has afforded her the right to visitation. Furthermore, she initially testified that all of her lack of relationship with children is not due whatsoever to her, but only due solely to the Father. This Court finds otherwise”.

Therefore, despite the Mother’s statement that the question of alienation was not addressed at the prior hearing, the fact is that the question of alienation was squarely before this Court; testimony was heard at great length regarding the question of alienation; and after trial this Court dismissed the Mother’s claim of alienation, for a failure of proof. Under the doctrine of res judicata, the Mother cannot now attempt to raise the same issue and have it relitigated within a child support context.

Accordingly, the Court finds that there was no alienation, either by the Father, or by the children themselves and that part of the Mother’s petition alleging alienation is dismissed. Since the balance of the Mother’s petition was previously dismissed by the Support Magistrate, the support order continues as to her.

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